Time for Yourself: 3 Tips for a Busy Mom

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Are you taking time for yourself to recharge, to just breathe? Probably not, well we are here to tell you that it is ok to make time for yourself! We see you running about doing all your mom things but when was the last time you did something for you? We all know that you do a thousand things in a regular day (sometimes an hour) for your family but what about you? You are just as important as anyone else in your family, in fact, maybe even more so! Your family counts on you to keep everyone on point. You keep the pantry stocked, make sure they have clean clothes to wear, schedule dentist appts, soccer, play dates, plus a hundred other tasks that you do without complaint (giggle….ok maybe a complaint or two here or there). You keep everything organized so it can all run smoothly and on time (if you are anything like me then we can use that term loosely if you would like). So, what about you, where do you fit it? As busy moms we often feel guilty for taking the time to do something as silly as get our nails done, go to the beach, lunch with a friend, because we are just thinking about all the things that still need to get done. Well make sure there is time allotted for you to recharge because if you burn out then who will take care of everyone? The old saying “You cannot pour from an empty cup.”, is so true.

3 Simple ways to get some alone time

1.) Schedule it. You thought it was going to be more profound than that right?! Sometimes it is as simple as getting yourself in the books. Don’t just schedule it though, keep it! Write it in pen, you deserve better than to just be penciled in!

2.) Steal it. Whether you are in between errands, softball practice or running to the store, just pull over and sit for 10 minutes. Turn off the radio, no cell phone, just take a minute to look around at everyone else running and gunning. Just breathe.

3.) Set your alarm. My favorite alone time is early in the morning. Every day I get up before my family and the sun and have my coffee in peace. To some it may seem crazy to get up so early but the peace I feel from this hour of solitude is worth getting out of bed for!

As you can see this isn’t some grand scheme to score a week away from your family and all your responsibilities or to convince you that a weekly 2 hour massage needs to be your norm. Consider this more of a starter kit for your alone time. Quick ways to steal a few moments for yourself that WILL help you relax a little and see things differently. Give it a try!

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Time for Change? When to Say Goodbye


Is it time to make a big change? Saying goodbye is rarely easy, and unfortunately, we sometimes have to choose to say goodbye. Whether it is to a job, a loved one, a friend, career or moving across the country to chase a dream, making a big change takes a lot of thought and can be very stressful. Sometimes we are confident in our decision but often times we are not. So, how do you know? How do you know when it is time to severe ties with something or someone that no longer serves you well. Now I don’t mean “serves you” in a selfish way, I just mean that if whatever is on your mind, no longer brings you joy, then you probably aren’t doing it any favors by staying around either.

The difficulty in this decision often rises up from a conflict between the heart and the mind. Our minds are driven by more rational thoughts while our hearts are guided by emotions, and to be honest, sometimes you just aren’t sure which one is right. Sometimes you have to make a decision based on concrete thoughts, such as finances, cases of abuse or mistreatment, future goals, etc.. However, sometimes the decision maker is the heart, and those decisions can be tricky. Whether you’re thinking about changing careers or ending a personal relationship, there are a few key questions that you can ask yourself to help guide the process.

1.) Why do you want to say goodbye? Can the situation be fixed?

2.) What will happen if you don’t change anything? To you and anything that is important to you.

3.) What are your reasons for not being confident in your decision to make this change?

4.) In the end, what do you think you would you regret more…….staying or leaving?

5.) What does making this change represent to you?

Clear as mud right? Now you have all these conflicting thoughts swimming in your head. Let them swim for a bit, eventually you will come to a conclusion. These questions aren’t going to provide you with a clear cut path and no consequences, every decision of this magnitude will have consequences (they aren’t always bad either) but you have to figure out which ones are more important to you. You owe it to yourself and those around you to find fulfillment, joy, and purpose because if you are miserable where you are then how can you bring joy to anyone else?

There is no right or wrong answer here on this page. Only you can decide what needs to be done. Every person reading this has a different situation in front of them, and different reasons for wanting change. I personally have made big difficult decisions in my life, and yes there were times when I doubted that I chose the right thing but in the end I know I was right. It wasn’t easy, but anything worth having rarely is.

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Beautiful Mom Life

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Mom life can be breathtaking!

Sometimes mom life gives us moments, moments that grab you by the heart and make you realize just how amazing this journey is. In that moment between all the chaos and the clutter, you stop and feel your heartbeat in your chest as you watch your little person master a skill, conquer a fear , or display a random act of kindness. It can be overwhelming or it can be quiet, subtle. Either way, in that moment, you are in awe of this little person in front of you, this little person that continues to grow, and learn, and advance in ways that you never knew was possible.


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Who is Jenny?

Wow, well that is a loaded question isn’t it, who IS Jenny?! How does one begin to explain such a complicated subject such as who you are?

It’s so easy to get caught up in the compartmentalized version of ourselves isn’t it, that maybe sometimes we lose sight of the big picture? I’m Jenny, I’m a nurse, a mom, a wife, and a small boutique owner. I am all these things at different times. Each of these roles brings out varying aspects of myself that in turn fill various emotional needs. I am a million piece puzzle that makes an amazing picture but takes forever to figure out, mostly though, in the end, I’m just Jenny. I feel AMAZING when the house is clean but let’s be honest…..that isn’t nearly often enough. I eat my veggies but love a good steak, thankfully my husband is a genius in the kitchen. I am a ‘fly by the seat of my pants’ type girl, who also loves organization and planning ahead, who will honestly probably just wing it when the times comes. I love my family, running my LuLaRoe business, nature, the truth, funny movies, a good book, that first cup of absolute amazingness called coffee in the morning, and wine….lots of wine! The truth is, I have such a variety of likes that you might find it crazy……or you just might find out that I am a lot like you, a delightful potty mouthed mom who can rock out to hard rock music one day and 1940’s jazz the next. Who is never too busy for a friend in need or lunch.

I must admit with all these things going on it can sometimes be hard to remember to take time for myself. I’m sure you have the same dilemma, like you would love a mani/pedi BUT you also need groceries and to get the kids off the bus. Finding balance is the key to success so let’s see if we can’t figure this adulting thing out!

So how would you describe my life? Organized chaos I would say…..organized chaos that is Asleep by Nine.

Welcome to my little corner of the world where we are all nothing alike, yet completely the same.

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