Time for Change? When to Say Goodbye


Is it time to make a big change? Saying goodbye is rarely easy, and unfortunately, we sometimes have to choose to say goodbye. Whether it is to a job, a loved one, a friend, career or moving across the country to chase a dream, making a big change takes a lot of thought and can be very stressful. Sometimes we are confident in our decision but often times we are not. So, how do you know? How do you know when it is time to severe ties with something or someone that no longer serves you well. Now I don’t mean “serves you” in a selfish way, I just mean that if whatever is on your mind, no longer brings you joy, then you probably aren’t doing it any favors by staying around either.

The difficulty in this decision often rises up from a conflict between the heart and the mind. Our minds are driven by more rational thoughts while our hearts are guided by emotions, and to be honest, sometimes you just aren’t sure which one is right. Sometimes you have to make a decision based on concrete thoughts, such as finances, cases of abuse or mistreatment, future goals, etc.. However, sometimes the decision maker is the heart, and those decisions can be tricky. Whether you’re thinking about changing careers or ending a personal relationship, there are a few key questions that you can ask yourself to help guide the process.

1.) Why do you want to say goodbye? Can the situation be fixed?

2.) What will happen if you don’t change anything? To you and anything that is important to you.

3.) What are your reasons for not being confident in your decision to make this change?

4.) In the end, what do you think you would you regret more…….staying or leaving?

5.) What does making this change represent to you?

Clear as mud right? Now you have all these conflicting thoughts swimming in your head. Let them swim for a bit, eventually you will come to a conclusion. These questions aren’t going to provide you with a clear cut path and no consequences, every decision of this magnitude will have consequences (they aren’t always bad either) but you have to figure out which ones are more important to you. You owe it to yourself and those around you to find fulfillment, joy, and purpose because if you are miserable where you are then how can you bring joy to anyone else?

There is no right or wrong answer here on this page. Only you can decide what needs to be done. Every person reading this has a different situation in front of them, and different reasons for wanting change. I personally have made big difficult decisions in my life, and yes there were times when I doubted that I chose the right thing but in the end I know I was right. It wasn’t easy, but anything worth having rarely is.

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